How to move on to conquer the heartbreak - Everyone who has a relationship with someone special especially those who are bound in marriage must always dream of their relationship will last forever. But sometimes our hope is not as beautiful as we imagine. Things that had never been a problem when we were dating but suddenly it could be the trigger for contention for so many reason and causes.
Just because your relationship ends it doesn’t mean it failed. The relationship simply ran its course and didn’t go the way you wanted it to. Those raw, unhappy feelings you’re feeling come from being disappointed. Maybe your ex didn’t appreciate you enough or didn’t treat you the way you deserved to be treated. Maybe you put a lot of time and hard work into the relationship or maybe you feel like you weren’t good enough for them. But, there’s no sense in dwelling on these feelings.
Some of you may be struggling in your relationships and wondering if it’s time to cut ties and go your own way. However, you may be afraid to take that first step because you don’t know how to move on after a romantic relationship comes to an end. It seems scary, but it's not as bad as you think.
Beyond the advice you'll receive from friends and relatives, to keep your chin up, push through the pain, and give it time to heal, researchers have gathered their own brand of relationship advice for mending a broken heart.
The first thing to understand is there are no parlor tricks, pills, or magical words that can heal a broken heart. When we lose the one we love, we often need time to work through the pain and grow as individuals. Heartbreak is a byproduct of several physical and emotional responses to a breakup, including regret, hormonal changes, and the misunderstanding that the absence of our partner is the main source of our pain and loneliness. Let's discuss some of the typical symptoms of a breakup, along with the methods to diminish their painful effects before they have a chance to do some real damage (sleeplessness, loss of appetite, depression, etc.)
Here are the 4 ways to conquer the heartbreak :
1. Fight or Flight
When a partner threatens to walk away from the relationship, our initial response is panic (fight or flight). This may cause the rejected individual to hold onto the other person (literally), beg, and even make desperate promises they can't keep. Once their lover walks away, despite the attempt to hold onto them, they are left with the same feelings of panic with nowhere to put this excess energy and stress hormone production, causing muscle tension, headaches, and overall fatigue. While I mentioned there was no pill to cure a broken heart, this is the one area where an over-the-counter medication might just take the edge off of some of this discomfort.
2. Talk it Out
When we are in love, our brains are swimming in such heroine-like, mood inducing chemicals as dopamine and oxytocin. The minute our partner walks away, production of these "feel good" chemicals cease. Some heartbroken lovers even claim they have experienced side effects similar to a heroine addict in rehab, such as sweating and involuntary body tremors. One way to reopen the production of these, is to enjoy a bout of vocal camaraderie with a close friend or family member. Talking about our pain has a way of making us feel better, according to researchers. If there is no one to talk to (or they are tired of hearing your story), write in a journal, draw, or play an instrument for a similar effect.
3. Meditation
After breaking up with a long time partner, our minds are often clouded with regret and negativity. Not only are these destructive, often causing symptoms of physical pain, but they also can drag us into a depression. Meditation and relaxation (deep breathing) are a great way to calm the nerves, discouraging hurtful stress hormones from entering our blood stream. In conjunction with freeing the mind of painful memories of an ex, another technique is to substitute all nagging, negative thoughts for new, positive ones. For example, if you find yourself reminiscing about your ex during a television show you used to watch with them, invite a friend over and make a new memory.
4. Exercise
That excess build up of stress hormones can be just as easily worked off through physical activity, as it can by quiet meditation. Many counselors recommend getting out and exercising as often as possible after a breakup, engaging in such activities as walking, biking, swimming, yoga, or weight lifting. Initially, exercise will reduce pain by releasing endorphins in the body. Over the long haul, exercise builds confidence, self esteem, and offers the symbolic change of a new physical body to compliment the beginning of a new phase in life.
Above all, remember that the loneliness and the pain of a breakup is a condition created by our own mind. Very few people are actually alone in this world, and if you choose to dwell on negative thoughts, you are only creating a chain reaction of physical and emotional unpleasantness. We do not have any control over those who choose to love us, but we do have control over choosing to love ourselves.
If you find yourself in the painful process of healing over a breakup, there are several ways to help you to move forward.
First, take responsibility for yourself, regardless of what the other person may have said or done. Be honest and acknowledge that you are in charge of your own.
Then, forgive yourself for choosing a relationship that caused you pain. By forgiving yourself while taking responsibility for your involvement in the relationship, the strength and the energy you need to see what is ahead of you becomes available.
When you are feeling ready to move forward, begin visualizations of cutting the energy cords between you and your ex. Send them away with blessings and forgiveness. However, if you are unable to let go of the anger and hurt, allow yourself to feel the emotions without analyzing them. Wounds take time to heal, but if you consistently make an effort to release what’s old and make space for something new, you will allow new love to enter your life
There are four components to moving on:
1. Emotional:
If you feel sad, don’t fight that feeling. Let yourself be sad. You can get your emotions out by writing in a journal. It’s okay if you cry! Both crying and writing can be very cleansing and will help you to release the pain.
2. Social:
Remove your ex from your contacts and social media accounts because seeing what they’re up to can be tempting. It doesn’t matter anymore! Also, don’t blast them on social media. It will only make you look bad.
3. Physical:
It’s time to cleanse your space, and you can do that by moving your furniture around and smudging your place to clear the energy around you and your home. While you’re at it, gather all of your ex’s stuff and put it in a box. You can donate whatever they gave you or toss it in the trash. That includes cards or clothes they’ve left at your place. Reclaim your space.
4. Spiritual:
Remember, the almighty GOD will always has a plan, and maybe it’s planning on sending you someone who is better relationship material than your ex.
While you’re working on healing, repeat this powerful words in your mind:
‘Whoever is right for me will come and stay. If they aren’t right for me, I don’t want them anyway.’
Know that your conscience is protecting you from someone who is not right for you so that you can find the one who is. Your intuition will help you to find the right person.”
And your greatest love story begins and ends with you. Fall in love again…
HOW TO LIVE HAPPILY AFTER BREAK-UP
A good way of giving yourself a boost - and coping with complicated feelings - is to imagine a bright future.
- Imagine the future as a corridor in front of you. Imagine walking down it, away from the present, towards a door.
- Open the door, and see beyond it a world in which you have recovered from your heartbreaking relationship.
- See what you look like, what you are wearing, where you are going, whom you are seeing.
- Now step into this new world and into the new happy you. Imagine the whole experience from the inside, seeing what you would see, hearing what you would hear, and feeling how good and happy things are now.
It is not a matter of believing the image is real: just imagine it as vividly as possible.
In heartbreak, there is often a backlog of emotional learning to get through. Do one bit at a time. Your unconscious mind will protect you, and give you a rest so that you can deal with the next bit. You will learn to step out of the memories, leave them behind, and start a new life.
Conclusion
So here is the review about the article entitled "How to move on to conquer the heartbreak."
As we understand that a piece of a fallen leaf is upon God’s permission . All events that occur in our lives must have HIS interference too, so we should remain grateful, positive thinking and always khunudzon against all HIS decisions. Life is a matter of choice,the important things is always trying to be happy in any conditions. Let’s do our best and lets God handle the rest . All there must be some considerations behind.
Hopefully this article may help us pass all the tests with thought wise. Have a blessing day,pals...
Dedicated to my friend : hope this message may heal the pain.....
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